I have compiled a list of books that I have read and recommend here. I have included my own notes in italics and a summary of the book copied from GoodReads.com
This list will be ongoing, so be sure to check back again later.
I’m currently reading:
The Body Never Lies – The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting by Alice Miller
On Goodreads, the title says “hurtful” parenting instead of cruel. I am on chapter two and I’ve already cried. Stay tuned.
“An examination of childhood trauma and its surreptitious, debilitating effects by one of the world’s leading psychoanalysts. Never before has world-renowned psychoanalyst Alice Miller examined so persuasively the long-range consequences of childhood abuse on the body. Using the experiences of her patients along with the biographical stories of literary giants such as Virginia Woolf, Franz Kafka, and Marcel Proust, Miller shows how a child’s humiliation, impotence, and bottled rage will manifest itself as adult illness―be it cancer, stroke, or other debilitating diseases. Never one to shy away from controversy, Miller urges society as a whole to jettison its belief in the Fourth Commandment and not to extend forgiveness to parents whose tyrannical childrearing methods have resulted in unhappy, and often ruined, adult lives. In this empowering work, writes Rutgers professor Philip Greven, ‘readers will learn how to confront the overt and covert traumas of their own childhoods with the enlightened guidance of Alice Miller.’ ”
Psychology and Self-healing
The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness Out of Blame by Pete Walker
I can’t tell you how many times I have thought while reading this book that everyone should read it. I see so many examples of people suppressing and bypassing their feelings and they have no idea how damaging this is emotionally. They can’t even think about thinking about it. Some people are not even aware that they have experienced trauma and they are confused about their suffering.
“This book is a handbook for increasing your emotional intelligence. Moreover, if you are a survivor of a dysfunctional family, it is a guide for repairing the damage done to your emotional nature in childhood. As such it is actually a sequel to my later book: Complex PTSD from Surviving To Thriving. The Tao of Fully Feeling focuses primarily on the emotional healing level of trauma recovery. It is a safe handbook for grieving losses of childhood.
Whether or not you are a childhood trauma survivor, this book is a guide to emotional health. The degree of our mental health is often reflected in the degree to which we love and respect ourselves and others in a myriad of different feeling states. Real self-esteem and real intimacy with others depends on the ability to lovingly be there for oneself and others, whether one’s feeling experience is pleasant or unpleasant. Those who can only be there for themselves or another during the “good” times show no constancy, inspire little trust, and are only fair weather friends to themselves and others.
Without access to our dysphoric feelings, we are deprived of the most fundamental part of our ability to notice when something is unfair, abusive, or neglectful. Those who cannot feel their sadness often do not know when they are being unfairly excluded, and those who cannot feel their normal angry or fearful responses to abuse, are often in danger of putting up with it without protest.
Repressing our emotions creates anxiety and stress, and stress, like most of our emotions is often treated like some unwanted waste that must be removed. Until all of the emotions are accepted indiscriminately (and acceptance does not imply license to dump emotions irresponsibly or abusively), there can be no wholeness, no real sense of well being, and no solid sense of self esteem.
Thus, while it may be fairly easy to like oneself when feelings of love, happiness or serenity are present, deeper psychological health is seen only in the individual who can maintain a posture of self-compassion and self-respect in the times of emotional hurt that accompany life’s inevitable losses, disappointments and unforeseen difficulties.
Finally this book explores the nature and limits of real forgiveness – identifying behaviors and people who cannot authentically be forgiven.”
COMPLEX PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker
(A best seller in neuropsychology on Amazon and available in Dutch)
This book has helped me to reach the core of my emotional pain. It has facilitated my understanding of the coping skills I developed in my childhood due to severe neglect, abandonment and mental & emotional abuse, and has shown me how to disagree with the critical voices that were created by the abusive parent I could never please.
“Key concepts of the book include: managing emotional flashbacks; understanding the four different types of trauma survivors; differentiating the outer critic from the inner critic; healing the abandonment depression that comes from emotional abandonment and self-abandonment; self-reparenting and reparenting by committee; and deconstructing the hierarchy of self-injuring responses that childhood trauma forces survivors to adopt.
The book also functions as a map to help you understand the somewhat linear progression of recovery, to help you identify what you have already accomplished, and to help you figure out what is best to work on and prioritize now. This in turn also serves to help you identify the signs of your recovery and to develop reasonable expectations about the rate of your recovery.”
Healing the Child Within by Charles L. Whitfield
As an adult child of an alcoholic, this book has helped me to understand the impact of my primary caregiver being addicted, emotionally unavailable and unpredictable.
“This book offers a clear and effective introduction to the basic principles of recovery. Physician and therapist Charles Whitfield describes the process of wounding that the Child Within (True Self) experiences and shows how to differentiate the True Self from the false self. He also describes the core issues of recovery and more, and provides a strong introduction to recognizing and healing from the painful effects of childhood trauma.”
Psychic Self-defense by Dion Fortune
Whether you believe in multi-dimensional reality or not, we are all affected in some way by beings and energies in the astral plane. As a psychic child who was unsupported and invalidated, never knowing that most of what I experienced as trauma was happening to me psychically, I benefited greatly from learning that I am not crazy, that psychic attack is very real and that I can protect myself from it.
“This book is a detailed instruction manual for safeguarding yourself against paranormal malevolence. Dion Fortune explores the elusive psychic element in mental illness and, more importantly, details the methods, motives, and physical aspects of psychic attack, and how to overcome this energy.”
•The red flags of narcissistic behavior and covert manipulation tactics, including subtle signs many survivors don’t catch in the early stages of dating a narcissist.
•The motives behind narcissistic abuse and techniques to resist a narcissist’s manipulation.
•Why abuse survivors usually stay with a narcissist long after incidents of abuse occur.
•How our own brain chemistry locks us into an addiction with a narcissistic or toxic partner, creating cravings for the constant chaos of the abuse cycle.
•Traditional and alternative methods to begin to detach and heal from the addiction to the narcissist, including eleven important steps all survivors must take on the road to healing.
•Methods to rewrite the narratives that abusers have written for us so we can begin to reconnect with our authentic selves and purpose.
•How to rebuild an even more victorious and empowering life after abuse.”
The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout
This book helped me to contextualize some of the most important relationships in my life.
We are accustomed to think of sociopaths as violent criminals, but in The Sociopath Next Door, Harvard psychologist Martha Stout reveals that a shocking 4 percent of ordinary people—one in twenty-five—has an often undetected mental disorder, the chief symptom of which is that that person possesses no conscience. He or she has no ability whatsoever to feel shame, guilt, or remorse. One in twenty-five everyday Americans, therefore, is secretly a sociopath. They could be your colleague, your neighbor, even family. And they can do literally anything at all and feel absolutely no guilt.
How do we recognize the remorseless? One of their chief characteristics is a kind of glow or charisma that makes sociopaths more charming or interesting than the other people around them. They seem more spontaneous, more intense, more complex, or even sexier than everyone else, making them tricky to identify and leaving us easily seduced. Fundamentally, sociopaths are different because they cannot love. Sociopaths learn early on to show sham emotion, but underneath they are indifferent to others’ suffering. They live to dominate and thrill to win.
The fact is, we all almost certainly know at least one or more sociopaths already. Part of the urgency in reading The Sociopath Next Door is the moment when we suddenly recognize that someone we know—someone we worked for, or were involved with, or voted for—is a sociopath. But what do we do with that knowledge? To arm us against the sociopath, Dr. Stout teaches us to question authority, suspect flattery, and beware the pity play. Above all, she writes, when a sociopath is beckoning, do not join the game.
It is the ruthless versus the rest of us, and The Sociopath Next Door will show you how to recognize and defeat the devil you know.
Deep Self-Healing by Louise Armitage
Louise Armitage takes an academic and mental approach to her healing process.
In Deep Self-Healing, Louise Armitage, a professional natural therapist, describes her unexpected journey of mind/body/spirit healing and personal transformation through mindfulness meditation. Her story explores how she faced healing the many faces of hard-personal circumstances and bitter emotional pain common to many peoplelike relationship breakdowns, grief, worthlessness, powerlessness and anxiety. As well as providing an in depth-account of her own self-healing process, woven through her story are thoughtful discussions of important spiritual-healing concepts such as the role of karma, past-lives and soul evolution.
Deep Self-Healing is therefore a unique blending of an intimate and honest personal story, with the important spiritual-healing principles underpinning it.
Vibe-raising & Reality Changing
Cynthia has a degree in physics from UC Berkeley, an MBA degree, and a Doctor of Divinity. Cynthia reminds us to ask in every situation, “How good can it get?” She is the best-selling author of six books, has been featured on the Discovery Channel, the History Channel, Coast to Coast AM, and the BBC, and has presented papers at international conferences on science, spirituality, and consciousness, Cynthia has shared findings from scientific research in the fields of quantum physics, quantum biology, the placebo effect, positive psychology, sociology, and alternative medicine, and she hosts Living the Quantum Dream on the DreamVisions7 radio network.
Dr. Sharnael is a Naturopathic Doctor, Speaker, Author, and Teacher on Divine Health and the Human Body. She is passionate about reconciling all people to an integrative life: mind, body and soul.
In the video she answers the following questions:
What kind of minister were you and how did you expand from limited Bible beliefs to understanding the message of consciousness in the scriptures?
With your expanded perspective, how do you now view the dogmatism and judgement that many people have due to religious teachings?
Let’s talk about the biofield, which you discuss often in your book. How can we understand our connection with the planet, other people and experiences on this planet and our part in creating or manifesting those experiences?
Many people don’t understand the practical way that the phrase “be the change you want to see in the world” applies to us or how our own frequency contributes to the world we see. Could you give us an example of how we are creating the very things in the world that we see and practical ways to change our reality?
In your book you mention trauma loops such as 9/11 and how memorializing such events keeps the loop alive. How do our individual traumas relate to or connect to the grander scale of the global traumas?
Are we feeding the global trauma loops due to our personal trauma loops?
How can we recognize and begin to heal our own personal trauma loops?
Finally, based on your knowledge, what advice would you give to those who are suffering from anxiety, fear and low self-worth?
By the end of You Are a Badass, you’ll understand why you are how you are, how to love what you can’t change, how to change what you don’t love, and how to use The Force to kick some serious ass.”
Humorous, surprising, and informative, Dr. Peterson tells us why skateboarding boys and girls must be left alone, what terrible fate awaits those who criticize too easily, and why you should always pet a cat when you meet one on the street.
What does the nervous system of the lowly lobster have to tell us about standing up straight (with our shoulders back) and about success in life? Why did ancient Egyptians worship the capacity to pay careful attention as the highest of gods? What dreadful paths do people tread when they become resentful, arrogant, and vengeful? Dr. Peterson journeys broadly, discussing discipline, freedom, adventure, and responsibility, distilling the world’s wisdom into 12 practical and profound rules for life. 12 Rules for Life shatters the modern commonplaces of science, faith, and human nature while transforming and ennobling the mind and spirit of its listeners.
Esoteric & Occult
Sane Occultism by Dion Fortune
Science and Spirituality
Autobiography of a Yogi by Paramahansa Yogananda
I listened to this on Audible, narrated by Ben Kingsley. I can only describe this book as “activating” for me. I began focusing on Kriya yoga, just from what was read and as I focused on the energy it produced in me, I could feel it working, even though I don’t know Kriya yoga. Simply focusing on it worked for me. My favorite part was the introduction to Babaji, whom I reached out to and saw his face in my dream. I asked him for help and received a catalyst immediately. It was on January 15, 2024. But that’s another story.
I haven’t actually read the book I have listed below, however, my husband, who has a PhD in Mathematics from Berkley has, and it contributed to his spiritual awakening. If you are more academically minded and looking for scientific evidence that spirituality is real, you might want to have a look at these authors.
Most of us know it well–the almost physical sensation that we are the object of someone’s attention. Is the feeling all in our heads? What about related phenomena, such as telepathy and premonitions? Are they merely subjective beliefs? In The Sense of Being Stared At, renowned biologist Rupert Sheldrake explores the intricacies of the mind and discovers that our perceptive abilities are stronger than most of us could have imagined.
Sheldrake argues persuasively in this compelling book that such phenomena are, in fact, real. He rejects the label of “paranormal” and shows how these psychic occurrences are in fact a normal part of human nature. Combining the tradition of pragmatic experimentation with a refusal to accept the conventional answers to explain such phenomena, Sheldrake pioneers an intriguing new inquiry into the mysteries of our deepest nature. Rigorously researched yet completely accessible, this groundbreaking book provides a refreshing new way of thinking about ourselves and our relationships with other people, animals, and the world around us.
There are 4 parts:
Part 1: Telepathy
Part 2: The Power of Attention
Part 3: Remote Viewing and Foreshadowings of the Future
Part 4: How does the 7th Sense Work?
The book begins by explaining how the “Sixth Sense” has already been claimed by biologists working on the electrical and magnetic senses of animals. Eels use electrical fields to sense objects around them, sharks and rays use similar fields to hunt, migratory birds and fish have a magnetic senses (biological compass), snakes have heat-sensing abilities, spiders detect web vibrations, etc.
Mr. Sheldrake explains how the 7th sense is biological, not supernatural. It extends beyond the body, though how is not exactly known. “To brush aside what people have experienced is not to be scientific, but unscientific. Science is founded on empirical method…” (experience and observation). “But despite an impresssive accumulation of evidence, psychic research has never been accepted within institutional sciences. It has been kept on the margins as a result of powerful taboos against the “paranormal.”
“In the background lurks the archaic fear of witchcraft.”
Crisis of Consciousness by Raymond Franz
I’m going to have to write a whole post about this one. I have a lot to say about it. Stay tuned.
The tendency of religious authority to seek to dominate rather than serve, and the struggle of those who wish to prevent the erosion of their God-given freedom of conscience — these form the heart of the very personal and candid account in Crisis of Conscience. The scene of struggle is within the membership of a distinctive Jehovah’s Witnesses. The same fundamental issues that mark this account, however, could arise within any of the world’s religions. Starting in the 1870’s as an independent Bible study group composed of a handful of persons in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, Jehovah’s Witnesses today number more than five million in some 200 lands. When their publishing agency, the Watch Tower Society, puts out a new book, the normal initial printing is one million copies, with other millions following. In countries where they are active, few people have not had contact with the Witnesses as a result of their intense door-to-door activity.